Bollywood actor tells an expensive daughter podcast that sometimes feels ugly

Kalki Koechlin performed at Blockbuster Bollywood Films, a model of international beauty brands and appeared on the Vogue India cover. But in a world that puts such a prize to look young, she sometimes says she feels “ugly”.

“We live in the social (media) world that has distorted beauty,” the actor, writer and producer tells the BBC World Service Podcast dear daughter. “It cheated us in the thinking of the beauty of a certain size, a certain color or a certain shape.”

The half -hour program presents letters from their parents to their children – in which they convey the advice and life lessons that are important to them – and talking with the leading show of the Mulant combo.

The leaf of the peg is addressed to a five -year -old daughter. In it, she offers navigation tips on pressure around the image of the body and describes ways of unrealistic beauty standards that influenced her personally.

The actor who lives in Goa in India with his husband Israeli musician Guy Gujberg and their daughter, says that the inspiration for this letter came to her when she came to her once after school to say that she did not feel beautiful.

“If they are so young, they are so perfect and you think, ‘Oh my God. How can you think you are not beautiful?! “,” she says in the podcast.

In the letter of the peg, which itself is the master of another bbc podcast, my Indian life, writes that it also feels “ugly sometimes, though I kept telling the world around me that I am beautiful.”

She advises her daughter that “beauty standards will change throughout life, so they do not have too much value because society considers it beautiful now.”

“Remember that your scars, your wrinkles, eyes, lips, hands, hair, your skin – all as witnesses of your beautiful life. They are here to grow old with you and carry you through ups and downs. They are your friends for life,” she writes.

The pegs, born in Pudrekhra, India, to France’s parents, describes itself as a “bizarre introvert”, becoming. In adolescence, she said she was uncomfortable with her appearance and continued her career on the camera only enhanced these feelings.

“Become a celebrity, have a face there and be in front of the camera … There is another layer of self -consciousness.”

Working in the film industry, she says she felt a certain pressure to maintain a youthful appearance. One day, she said, the producer even offered for lunch, which would receive skin fillers for his wrinkles.

“He said,” All you need is a small filler for your laughter. “I smiled and said,” Well, it’s better to smile so much. “So I think my approach was to fight it with humor.”

The pegs say that it happened when she was in the 30th, and that she “had enough life to do not affect.”

“But I know that 20 years of age are talking about it, and they feel pressure to go and change your face very early.”

The pegs says he believes that this pressure is deteriorating by the rise of social media. “We all study (ourselves) and we all have these filters.” And in her letter she shares her fears to try to protect her daughter from such close control.

She jokes that she even thought about moving to Australia when she heard about the country’s plans to ban smartphones for up to 16 years. “That’s how my mother-mosg works! “

The pegs are not the only celebrity that speaks of the pressure that will appear young, which women face in public eyes.

Actor of unfamiliar things mile Bobbi Brown did the headlines Earlier this month, for calling the journalists who criticized the way it has grown.

“The fact that adult writers spend their time, dissecting my face, my body, my choice is alarming,” said a 21-year-old guy in a three-minute video on his Instagram page.

Dear daughter Podcast is the brainchild of Mulonto Combo, mother from Nairobi, in search of creating a “help to life” for a daughter, through parents from all over the world.

Each episode has a guest who reads the letter they wrote to their children, or their future children or children they have never had, with advice, life lessons and personal stories they want to convey.

In one of the episodes of the current season, the actor Bridgerton -Ando Angu orders his three children to trust his instincts. In another, the host of the documentary about the wildlife Ray Wein-Grant offers tips on how to survive self-doubt and meetings with bears.

Dear daughter

One day after school, you told me, “I am not beautiful.” You were only four. I said and immediately replied, “What do you mean, of course, you are beautiful, you are as beautiful as a butterfly, bright as the sun.”

In retrospect, I would like me to listen to you and be wondering enough to ask why you didn’t feel beautiful? You see that I also make mistakes, your own uncertainty and you need to protect you and I don’t allow you to feel what you feel. Don’t let others decide who you are. Even I am. You have much more experience to be you than anyone else. And no one else may be you better than you.

Fortunately, I get a second chance to become a better mother, and when in a few weeks you said, “I don’t like myself,” I stopped my impetus to tell you what you were and listened. There was some silence, and then you started how difficult it was for some other children at school.

I was thinking about how to make sure you know that beauty is not skin. True, sometimes you will feel ugly. I feel ugly sometimes, though I was constantly told the world around me that I am beautiful. And now I made sense to tell you how beautiful you are, not when you feel bad in how you look, and not when you dress but when you are the best of you.

When you age, I know you don’t always believe you are beautiful because we live in the social world that distorted the beauty that has deceived us into beauty thinking, there is a certain size, a certain color or a certain shape. These beauty standards will change throughout life, so do not consider too much value because society considers it beautiful now.

Remember that you are whole and that when you start to disassemble your small nose or hairy eyebrows or not quite right ears, you will start to feel ugly, but that’s just because you forget the whole. Elephant is a beautiful animal, but choose it, and it has a long wrinkled nose, amazing lateral eyes, huge ears and big fat.

Remember that your scars, wrinkles, eyes, lips, hands, legs, your skin here are like witnesses of your beautiful life, they are here to grow old with you and move you through ups and falls, they are your friends for life.

Dear daughter, do you know when I stop loving you? Never.

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