As a dating camp can help Chinese millions of single men

To say that women in China are listed would be a lowering.

With staggering 30 million more men than in women, one of the most popular countries of the world has a flood from men who are unrelated.

The chances are heavily consisting of finding a date, not to mention the wife – what many feel pressure.

Worse, it’s even harder if you are from a lower social class, according to a Chinese Hao dating coach, which has more than 3,000 customers.

“Most of them are a work class – they will find wives least,” he says.

We see this first -hand in the documentary “Violeta du Feng” “Dating”, where we look at Hao and three of his customers during the weekly dating camp.

All of them, including Hao, went from poor, rural origin and were part of the generation that grows after the 90s in China when many parents left little ones with other family members to go and work in cities.

This generation is now adults, and they are going to the cities themselves to try to find a wife and enhance their status.

Du Feng, who is in the US, wants her film to emphasize what life is for young generations in her country.

“At a time when the gender gap is so extreme, especially in China, it is about how we can overcome the gap and create a dialogue,” she says the BBC.

Three Hao customers – Lee, 24, Wu, 27 and Zhou, 36 – fight the consequences of politics in China.

Created by the government in 1980, when the population approached a billion, a politician was introduced against the backdrop of concerns, which will have too many people affect the country’s economic growth.

But The traditional advantage for children -man has led to A large number of girls are thrown, located in orphanages, sexual abortions or even cases of female childbearing. The result is a huge gender imbalance.

China is now so concerned about its birth and population aging that it has completed the policy in 2016 and pursues regular sports events.

Wu, Lee and Zhou want Hao to help them find a girlfriend at least.

He is a person they may seek to be successful in finding a vein wife, who is also a dating coach.

Men allow Hao to give them transformations and haircuts, while he talks about his dubious “methods” to attract women – both on the Internet and in person.

But although everyone is trying everything possible, not everything goes according to the plan.

Hao creates an online image for each person, but it stretches several boundaries in how it describes them, and Zhou thinks it feels “false”.

“I feel guilty by cheating on others,” he says it is obviously uncomfortable when he is reflecting as a person he cannot be in reality.

Du Feng believes this is a broader problem.

“This is a unique story in China, but it is also a versatile story of how in this digital landscape we all fight and fight the cost of forgery in the digital world, and then the prices we have to pay to be true and honest,” she says.

Hao can become one of the “most popular dating coaches” in China, but we see his wife questioning some of his methods.

Not specified, he sends his protests to a meeting with women, spraying the armpits of deodorants, saying: “This is the show!”

Men should approach potential dates at a busy night shopping mall in Chongqing, one of the largest cities in the world.

It is almost painful to observe how they ask women to contact the WeChat messaging app.

But it teaches them to delve into their internal confidence, which was still hidden from the gaze.

D -R Zheng Mu from the Sociology Department of the Singapore National University tells the BBC how the pressure on marriage can affect single men.

“In China, marriage or ability, financially and socially, marry as the main breadwinner, is still heavily expected from men,” she says.

“As a result, the complexity is considered marriage can become a social stigma, indicating that they are not capable and deserve roles, which leads to great pressure and mental stress.”

Zhou despises how much dates cost him, including paying for matchmakers, dinner and new clothes.

“I only earn $ 600 (£ 440) a month,” he says, noting that the date costs about $ 300.

“After all, our fate is determined by society,” he adds, deciding that he needs to “create my status”.

Du Feng explains: “This is a generation in which many such unnecessary men are defined as failures of their economic status.

“They are regarded as the bottom of society, the working class, and therefore somehow marry – another indicator that they can succeed.”

We find out that one of the ways for men in China “break the social class” – enter the army and see a large set of set in the movie.

The film, in particular, does not study what life is for gays in China.

Du Feng agrees that society is less accepted by gays, and Dr. Mu adds: “In China, hetero -charter is heavily managing.

“Therefore, it is expected that men get married for women to fulfill the norms … To support the nuclear family and develop it into large families, becoming parents.”

Technology also features in a documentary that studies the increasing popularity of virtual guys, saying that more than 10 million women in China are playing online.

We even see a virtual guy in action – he understands, undemanding and undeniably beautiful.

One woman says that in real life it costs “time, money, emotional energy – it is so exhausted.”

She adds that “virtual men are different – they have a great temperament, they are just perfect.”

D -Mu views this trend as “testifies to social problems” in China, citing “long working hours, greedy work culture and a competitive environment, as well as enshrined in the gender.”

“Virtual guys who can behave better, coordinating with the expected women’s ideals can be a way of performing their romantic ideas.”

Du Feng adds: “The thing that was discussed is that women with virtual guys feel that men in China are not emotionally stable.”

Her film fits into masculine origin, including their often broken relationships with parents and families.

“These men go from this, and they are so much negative – how can you expect they will be emotionally stable?”

Reuters reported last year that “a long -term lifestyle is gradually becoming more common in China.”

“I am concerned about how we are now connecting to each other, especially the younger generation,” Du Feng says.

“Dating is just a device for us to talk about it. But I’m very worried.

“My movie about how we live in this loneliness epidemic and we are all trying to find a connection with each other.”

Thus, by the end of a documentary, which has many comic points, we see that it was something realistic journey of self -discovery for all men, including Hao.

“I think it’s about warmth when they find each other, knowing that this is a collective crisis they are all facing, and how they still find hope,” Du Feng says.

“It is more about them to find yourself and find anyone to pat your shoulders, saying, ‘I see you, and there is a way to do it.”

C tells Alan Hunter who says Alan Hunter daily The film “Supported by Humanity, which du Feng finds in each of the people we find out and understand a little better”, adding it “ultimately welcomes virtue to be true to itself.”

Hao concludes: “Once you like, you easier to make the girls like you.”

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