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TJ Holmes and Amy rian cruel honesty in advising a 59 -year -old man looking to “follow” a relative of a 19 -year -old girl.
As part of their “Ask for AMA and TJ” advice column for Yahoo’s lifeHolmes, 47, and Robach, 52, shared a letter they received from a fan, who noted, “I’m 59, she’s 19. I wait as you shake the obvious initial response … she and I have found intimacy at a level that we never thought they didn’t exist in informing the complexity of falling in love. You couldn’t be more accurate …”
The unknown person asked for some “Non -judgmental feedback”About whether to find a way to make the romance work.
“Finding the courage to step off the cliff of ‘settle for less,’ in the hope of experiencing the kind of love that even the best poets, artists and musicians cannot be fully described, paralyzed!” He wrote. “She and I are currently standing on that cliff.”
Holmes and Robach did not hold back in their response, which began with a comparison with Bill Belichickwho is 73, and his girlfriend, Jordon HudsonWho is 24.
“That’s a 49 -year -old age gap for them. It’s not a morality, but there are 25 year olds that I have nothing in common with,” noted Holmes. “So how does this work?”
Holmes made clear that he could not “in good conscience” show his support.
“Love can have so many forms. You never know where you are going to find it, how, when, when or with. Sometimes love happens and, if you are not hurt yourself or someone else, who are we to say it’s wrong?” He continued. “If you really care about this woman, and love her, think about how much life she has in front of her and how much she could miss out on being with a man nearly 60.”
Holmes added: “She’s going to miss out on being a teenager, on partying with her friends, on so many of the silly little things that are part of our formative years. Don’t take it from her.”
In the meantime, Robach tried to reason “is not so much for the age gap.”
“I’m not interested in judging who should date who,” Robach noted. “There are people who fill different roles in our lives and the age difference between you may feel comfortable and safe for it at the moment. But I can’t imagine it will always go that way. Her age is a bigger red flag for me.”
In her response, Robach highlighted the “power imbalance and imbalance of experience,” writing, “I see many potential problems for both of you because it was so printable at this age. TJ and I married for the first time when we were 23 years old. And I wouldn’t advise that either!
Holmes and Robach tried to offer an insight without opinion by link it back to their experience as a couple. The pair’s relationship made headlines in November 2022 when they were seen getting cozy together while still marrying other people.
“When our relationship was excluded, the first and most important thing we had to have was the support of our children, friends and parents. We needed that. Most couples do, especially if their relationship is going to be scrutinized, and you should be prepared that yours could be,” shared Robach. “The truth is that a 19 -year -old girl doesn’t know s ***.”
She continued: “She has had almost no experience, and she tries to have a relationship with you, someone who has had decades of different relationship experiences. You know what you want and need, and what you don’t. You know what you can give. She doesn’t know any of those things yet. She hasn’t yet had a chance to explore who she is.”
Hymn Expired by explaining He does not say that the man is “doing anything wrong,” but if he loves her, he should “let that girl go.” Robach was of the same mindset in her last response.
“You both need to ask a lot of hard questions about what you’re ready to sacrifice. You, like the older person, need to wonder what effect this might have on someone you love,” he concluded. “Sometimes love does the right thing instead of what you want or need in that moment, but it does right from the person you love. It sets them up for the best success in life.”
